Margaret’s Message June 6th
Last week I hinted at what I wanted to share as my message for the month of June. I wanted to speak about the three things that were held in common by the three most popular observances of the month. Those three things are Father’s Day, Graduations and Weddings – as June is one of – if not the most popular wedding month of the year. What they share in common is something very basic – they are all celebrations of new beginnings and all involve elemental shifts!
Graduation marks a milestone of movement from one form of learning to another form – whether it be from Kindergarten to Grade School – Grade School to Middle School – Middle School to High School and then on to College, Graduate Schools, Doctoral Programs – or off to different forms of employment and the graduations that they often experience through the upward movement of promotions! These new beginnings are very singular in their nature as they are the direct result of your individual accomplishments and are all about your evolution as an individual. What is interesting however is that as you are progressing as an individual you are also moving along as a “class.” And part of the success you will encounter is not only about your individual achievements, but how you also stack up against the people in your class. I bring this up only to help you to see that the very groups that give you some sense of connection, acceptance and belonging, are also the groups that are giving you a sense of separation from other groups – and a sense of lack. Regardless of all of the amazing talent that might be in a particular class there will always be just one – or maybe two – Valedictorians. These are the individuals who have set themselves apart from the rest of the group by seemingly showing the most outstanding achievements. I am not speaking poorly of these individuals – because their achievements are great – but often there are other great achievers who lose their momentum for achieving their dreams when they do not seem as important as the top GPA or attendance record.
If I were to be speaking to the Graduates of a High School Class I would urge them to not compare themselves to others – for everyone is so very different – and many different voices make for a beautiful chorus! Rather, I would advise them to do those things that will help you to progress in society – but always look for the thing that brings them the greatest joy! There are many young people who have come into this incarnation with the skills to create vast new possibilities for this planet – that will never be realized if they settle their desires to the “status quo.”
A single person can change the course of the planet and if you look through history you will see that it is the actions of singular people who are changing it all the time. You are not “graduating” and leaving behind the knowledge of the past. You are evolving to the next level of your being and your schooling is just a part of that learning. It is interesting that many modern societies have come to the belief that learning is so important that you actually require it! Your soul always desires to grow. It desires new experiences, greater knowledge and you are always seeking a deeper understanding of yourself. Regardless of your current place in life, use this month of June to graduate to your newer level of evolution and know that all of you are in a class all by yourself and have come here to be the greatest expression of yourselves that you can possibly be!
Sometimes in that desire to become the greatest expression of yourself you come across another being that helps you to reach those heights – and often you do the same for them. When this takes place it allows you to feel safer to allow a greater opening of your heart center – which enables you to feel a pure connection to your soul – your higher self. This feeling of your own soul’s essential energy of pure love causes you to want to continue the connection to this person, who has triggered your feeling safe to do this, and you desire to prolong your contact with them. This usually evolves into relationships and some of these relationships will evolve into a joining of permanence that you have come to call Marriage. Relationships are a “graduation” in their own right. You graduate from thinking solely of your own needs and happiness and begin to desire to spread that love and joy to others. In the healthiest of relationships you do not give up your own self-care, but you expand that caring to include others and you derive joy from doing this – just as your beloved experiences the same with you. I mentioned earlier that so many marriages take place in the month of June because it provides, in many cases, the optimal weather conditions – allowing for the most auspicious beginning to this union of two souls that have come together to form something “bigger than the both of them!”
Marriage is about joining two people together as a collective unit of energy. It is like when you combine two other elements of nature – for example – hydrogen and oxygen. Either one, on their own, provides a powerful and useful purpose, but combined they create water – which is the key to the existence of the entire planet. When you begin to see yourself as energetic beings, you come to realize that it is the combination of your individual energies that often leads to magnificent new energies that allow you to create other new possibilities. One’s energy brings to the other certain elements that may be lacking in their structure. The key, if you will, to human relationships, and especially marriage, as you have created it to be a lifelong joining, is to respect the structure of each individual’s makeup – supporting them to grow that expression of their energy – while respecting your unique energy as well. You then allow those energies to blend and see what develops through this blending. As with other elements – different blends work in different ways. Some blends will produce explosive results, while others are gentle transformations and some will not blend – seeking instead to just hold onto their original structure. I hope you can see how well this applies to people in relationships as well. Some blends are so easy and produce more joy and expansion than in their original forms. In other cases, the combinations are explosive and result in constant conflicts as each form seeks to retain their unique identity – while at the same time wanting to be in this mix of energies. And finally there are those relationships in which the elements just do not blend at all. But when these energies do blend, the result is an amazing new creation – an expression of combined soul energy that allows for a far greater expansion then the two individual souls could create – because their blending was based in the expansion of love – and a new and wonderful beginning takes place.
And sometimes when two souls join together – through marriage or just through the expression of a sexual union – this blending of energies actually gives birth to an entirely new human form – and that form becomes the container for an entirely new soul. And this new soul gives the two elements that joined together another new identity – that of a father and a mother. We honor Mothers during the month of May – but it is in June that we honor the energies of Fathers. In today’s times the roles of mothers and fathers have greatly blended – especially in the case of single parents. Father’s traditionally took on the role of the provider and protector. Today that may expand to being the coach, transporter, meal maker, laundry facilitator, homework helper and emotional support. What makes this such an amazing new beginning is that – like the marriage you desire to help this new being to be the greatest expression of itself that it can – and like with graduation – you watch them develop all of the skills they will need in life – from learning to feed themselves – to walking – to learning to read and so very much more. You support their growth – but you also try to protect them! The desire to protect their young is hard wired into the brains of almost all parents of all species – but it is most complicated as it refers to humans. You desire to protect – which comes from the brain – but you also desire to help your young ones to expand – which comes from the soul – so you then seek to find that perfect blend of energies that is called balance.
So you see dear ones, what Graduation and Marriage and Father’s Day have in common is that all three speak to new beginnings and all three are best accomplished through seeking balance of your personal elements in all things. When you cook, or eat the perfect meal, it is generally because all of the elements of that dish are balanced in such a way as to compliment the other. Balance work with fun… balance learning with sharing… balance your needs with other’s needs… balance teaching your children with learning from them…balance protecting with encouraging independence… and balance every struggle with love.
You drink water, or something made with water every day. You shower with it and you cook with it. Use water as your daily reminder of how perfectly two very different elements can come together to form something so wonderful. The one part of oxygen does not become upset that there are two parts of hydrogen – the blend works. Look for what works in your life and when it does celebrate it – like you would a graduation, or a wedding – or Father’s Day! And just as all of the elements complement each other – take some time to complement yourself on those blends that you have created in this lifetime, for however long they have lasted, for all of them have helped your soul to grow its energy and for you to grow in your humanity!
Go in peace, love and elemental balance,